Judging others comes easily to most of us. I find that I fall all too easily into this offense.
This post I found on Facebook demonstrates that it happens from every worldview. https://www.facebook.com/confidentbichacha – I don’t know who the author is.
- Girl gets pregnant at 20: People say “She’s too young to have a baby”.
- Girl considers abortion: “Babykiller”
- Girl considers adoption: “Can’t believe she’s just going to give her baby away”
- Girl keeps baby: “How’s she going to afford that baby?”
- Girl gets welfare: “Our taxes are paying for her laziness”
- Girl gets job: “How can she stand to be away from her baby all day like that?”
- Girl stops hanging out with friends: “She totally changed when she had that baby”
- Girl goes out: “She’s always partying”
- Girl wants to leave crappy bf: “Nobody knows what it means to work things out anymore”
- Girl wants to stay with crappy bf: “She’s crazy”
- Girl is overprotective of her child: “You’re acting like a psycho”
- Girl lets her child play without her: “Where is this kid’s mom?”
- Girl spanks her kid: “Call Police!”
- Girl refuses to spank: “Her kids are gonna be such brats”
Think about the tone of voice usually used in these comments. How about the expressions on those faces. This is cynicism at its ugliest.
Judging is easy. It does not require any effort or involvement. We feel superior. It supports our political agendas. Almost everyone does it from time to time. Name calling and wagging fingers rarely bring about the change that we think should happen.
Jesus said, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:1-5).
Instead how can we show mercy and kindness to our sister? How can we come along side this girl and help her? How can we show love? How can we encourage her?